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Volume XIV
Issue 1

Shevat/Adar

Newspaper of 5775

OF THE BLUEGRASS February 2015

 

Harriet Cooper’s Tayglach Recipe
makes Aliyah

By Hanna B. Smith

In 1975 Haim Shapiro. brother of Lexingtonian Judy
Saxe. attended a bat mitzvah reception at Ohavay Zion
Synagogue. Haim was a reporter for the Jerusalem Post in
those days. and even though he was on vacation and visit-
ing family he could not help but cast a professional eye
over the desserts offered at the event. Members of Sister-
hood had prepared the desserts. and all were good.

The best of the desserts by far. as Haim Shapiro reported.
were tayglach. baked by Harriet Cooper according to a
recipe given to her by her mother—in—law. Mrs. Dora Coo—
per. Haim described the tayglach as “truly sublime. both
in texture and taste". and he was happy to see a traditional
‘Jewish dish” among the contemporary offerings(see:
Culinary Notes by Haim Shapiro. The Jerusalem Post
Magazine. December 1975). The Jerusalem Post featured
Harriet's tayglach recipe in its December 1975 edition.
Here is the recipe from the Jerusalem Post:

0 Beat 3 eggs lightly in a large bowl.

0 Sift 2 cups of flour with Mr teaspoon of salt and 1/2

teaspoon of powdered ginger.

- Stir the flour mixture into the eggs to form a stiff

paste.

- Turn out the dough onto a thinly floured board and

knead for a few minutes.

0 Divide well—mixed dough into small balls. roll each

ball into a long cylinder about V4 inch thick. then tie

each cylinder into a knot.

' Take 1 cup of honey. add 1 cup of sugar and 1 tea-

spoon of powdered ginger. heat until the honey begins

to boil.

0 Slowly drop the dough into the honey mixture.

let honey return to boil after a few pieces have been

thrown in.

0 When all the tayglach are in the boiling honey, re—

duce heat and cook tayglach for 20 minutes.

- Then turn off heat and add 1/2 cup of boiling water to

keep the honey from crystallizing.

- Cool tayglachs and store them injars.

My exposure to tayglach has unfortunately been only to
some rather dry specimen in Jewish bakeries. To gain a
better understanding. I searched the intemet and found a
number of recipes. Several of the recipes (cont. page 2)

 

Camp Shalom announces regional
Jewish Camp Fair
By: Tamara Ohayon

It is that time of year, in mid-winter. when we are all
dreaming of our warm summer days. If you. like many of
us, are starting to think about summer camp. we hope you
will join us at this year’s Regional Jewish Summer Camp
Fair set for Sunday. February 8. This joint effort between
Camp Shalom and the Temple Adath Israel and Ohavay
Zion religious schools. will be hosted by Ohavay Zion
Synagogue.

Beginning at 12 noon, OZS will be open their social hall
and have lunch available for purchase. Representatives
from Camp Livingston (JCCA). Goldman Union Camp
Institute (URJ), Camp Ramah Darom (USY). Camp
Young Judaea Midwest (CYJ), B‘nai B’rith Perlman
Camp (BBYO).and our very own Camp Shalom will have
booths and information about the coming summer and be
there to answer any questions you may have.

We will also have a special booth with information about
scholarships which may be available to our local commu—
nity members.

Around 12:30 pm. former and prospective campers will
be invited to participate in a campfire chat where everyone
will have the opportunity to share their camp experiences
and ask questions of their peers.

This will be a wonderful and fun opportunity to learn
about some of the many fantastic Jewish camps open to
our children. For more information about our regional
camp fair, please contact Tamara Ohayon at camp @jew—
ishlexingtonorg or (859) 268-0672.

 

CAMPAIGN NEWS

Super Sunday Launches 2015 Jewish
Federation Community Campaign

Super Sunday 2015 will take place on Sunday. February
22. Volunteers are needed to make telephone calls to your
friends and neighbors. There will be three shifts of call—
ers: 9:30 amto 11:30 am. ll am to 1 pm. and 12:30 pm to
2:30 pm. Each shift will begin with a training session and
a nosh (we are Jewish, after all).

We encourage all members of the Jewish community
to answer your phones that day and to give generously.
Pledges made now can be paid out over the year. Final
payment is not due until December. (cont. page 2)

 

 (Harrier Cooper, continuedfmm Page 1 )

add nuts and almonds and form the confection into
balls. held together by the honey in which the dough
was boiled. Most of the bakers serve tayglach as a
Rosh Hashanah treat because of its sweetness.

Jewish food historian and cookbook author Gil Marks
reports that a confection similar to tayglach has been
around for a long time. Jews living in the Roman
Empire fried dough in honey and called the confection
vermiculos. During the Middle Ages. Jews in France
and Germany called the confection vermesal (see: St.
Louis Jewish Light. http://sljewishlight.com/features/
article_e2e07804—3946-1 led4). The spelling of the
word has varied: taiglach. tayglach. teyglakh. Sep-
hardim call their honey confection pinyonate.

Making tayglach has fallen into neglect. though one
would not believe it judging by the number of enthusi-
astically presented recipes on the intemet. One of the
reasons for the neglect may be a general lack of inter—
est in the old customs. Health concerns may also play
a part. according to food historian Gil Marks.

Still. a recipe that survived a couple of thousand years
and travelled around the world. with frequent stops

in Eastern Europe. Germany. France. Spain. and the
United States, has a lot of life in it. I wish the same
for all of us. Enjoy!

(With many thanks to Leon Cooper for making Har-
riet’s recipe available to Shalom.)

 

(Campaign News. cont. from page I )

Our Women’s Philanthropy event will be held on
Thursday, March 19th at 5:30 pm at Ohavay Zion
Synagogue. We will be entertained by a program of
historical ballroom dance performed to music by Jew—
ish composers. The dancers are members of Lexington
Vintage Dance directed by community member Paula
Harrison and Tim Lamm. The dances will date from
the early 1800s through 1930. Lorne Dechtenberg is
working with the Lexington Vintage Dance to find the
appropriate music and to accompany the performance.

Dinner. dessert and wine will be served. The couvert

for the event is $18 and a contribution of $18 or more
to the Women’s Philanthropy Division of the Jewish

Federation of the Bluegrass Community Campaign is
requested.

To volunteer for Super Sunday and /or to register for
the Women's Philanthropy event. please call Judy
Wortman at 268-0672 or email me at jfb@jewishlex-
ington.org.

Editorial

Barbara L. Goldman

Pirkei Avot 2:8: Hillel used
to say. The more tzedakah.
the more shalom.

Super Sunday 2015 is hap-
pening soon and we need
your help. Sunday February
22 will be a very special day
for us. So special in fact. it
will be helping pave the way
not only for the year ahead. but the years ahead. This
one day of the year dictates so much in our ability
to reach the community and continue to provide our
services to the community. There are so many differ-
ent ways to contribute to Super Sunday 2015 and help
with our continued success.

Three different shifts of volunteer callers will be
reaching out via telephone throughout the day. The
two—hour shifts will begin at 9:30 am. 1 1:00 am. and
12:30 pm. We are still seeking help to fill all of these
volunteer slots.

We need help spreading the word and educating each
other about this important day and the many impor-
tant things we do. Our programs educate and serve all
ages. all walks of life. and all of the community. This
simple task may seem mundane. but in many ways

it is the most important. Please tell your friends and
neighbors to pick up their phones! If they don‘t hear
from us. please encourage them to give us a call.

One of the most inspiring aspects about helping give
to this wonderful organization is how many different
people and programs your pledges can help. Without
your pledges it wouldn‘t be possible. Unlike many do-
nations. pledges don’t have to be paid up front. but can
be paid out throughout the year to help accommodate
your budget. Final payment is not due until December
2015.

To volunteer for Super Sunday or to help show your
support. please call 859268-0672.

“A person’s got to think. otherwise that person‘s no
better than a trained seal balancing a ball on his nose.
If only that seal could think. he’d know he was mak-
ing a thousand children laugh." Bette Greene. Summer
ofM y German Soldier

 

 Director’s Report
Judy Wortman. Executive
Director

A Thank You to our
Community

As you know. it has been

several months since the death

of my husband. Rabbi David

Wortman. I would like to take

this opportunity to use my to

express my profound gratitude
to the Jewish community and to the UK Healthcare
community for the wonderful support my family has
received.

David received a liver and kidney transplant at UK
five years ago. He had an extra five years of life thanks
to the extraordinary care of the transplant team lead
by his surgeon Dr. Roberto Gedaly. Dr. Gedaly and
all the staff in the department treated David with the
utmost respect and dignity. Because he had to take
anti-rejection drugs. he was very susceptible to other
infections. and he did have a number of hospitaliza—
tions for pneumonia and other illnesses. During each
of those hospitalizations. he was cared for with love
by the UK staff and was visited every single day by
Dr. Michael Karpf. the president of UK Healthcare
and by Patty Followell RN. Dr. Karpf’s assistant. I am
forever indebted to them.

I would like to thank my sister Linda Angelo and her
wonderful partner Larry Porter for taking care of me
these past months during my mourning and my illness.
They fed me. shopped for me. did countless errands.
and were my healthcare advocates. They and Tamara
Ohayon's mother. Malka. painstakingly packed and
gave away David's clothing. possessions and books to
a number of local charities and to the UK Jewish Stud-
ies Library.

Thank you to the JFB staff Tamara Ohayon. Mimi
Kaufman. Talia Smolkin and Kathie Kroot for all
your hard work while I was out. and for your love and
devotion. And I would like to thank Rabbis Smolkin.
Kline. Roberts. Smith and Cohen for caring for David
and me through these difficult months.

I send profound thanks to my friends on the Federation
Board. and from 025. TAI. Hadassah. the Lexington
Havurah and B‘nai B‘rith. for all you have done for

us since David‘s illness and death - for thousands of
dollars in tzedakah in his memory. for food packages
and wonderful soups. for chocolate. for flowers and
body creams and countless visits and prayers. I feel so
blessed by this extraordinary community. Thank you

3

for your embrace. While I have been here in Lexing-
ton for only 5 1/2 years. it really feels like home be-
cause of all of you and I am profoundly grateful.

 

UK history professor Jeremy Popkin turns one-year
contract into 35 years of elite research

BY LINDA B. BLACKFORD. LEXINGTON HERALD
LEADER lblackford@herald—leader.com

December 25. 2014

“There’s more interes oday in history than there ever has been."
UK history professor Jeremy Popkin said. “I tend to think it has
more of a future than people think." PABLO ALCALA — Lex—
ington Herald—Leader

In 1978. Jeremy Popkin came to Lexington with a
newly minted Ph.D. in history and a one—year contract
to teach at the University of Kentucky.

The department manager noted. “you won't be here
long." and stuck him in a comer seminar room. Thirty—
five years later. he‘s still in that small space as books.
some his own. climb the walls around him.

The humble office now houses one of UK‘s most elite
professors. author of 20 books. recipient of numerous
academic accolades and the newly appointed William
T. Bryan Endowed Chair in History. Although retire-
ment might beckon — Popkin turned 66 this month —
he is planning his next project. a definitive history of
the French Revolution.

The walls of Popkin's office are stacked with titles
that reflect his deep historical interests. namely the
Holocaust. the French Revolution. the Haitian Revolu-
tion and the study of history itself.

Karen Petrone. chairwoman of UK‘s history depart-
ment. was one of the people who nominated Popkin
for the endowed Chair. partly because of the breadth
and depth of his expertise.

“That‘s what is so unusual: not only has he succeeded
in writing influential books. but (continues nextpage)

 

 (Popkin. continued from page 3)

writing them in at least three main areas of historical
research." she said. "He‘s the only one in the depart—
ment who moves across movements and geography
like this."

Popkin thinks his life‘s work might be traced back

to when he was 4 years old. In some old letters. his
father. Richard Popkin. a famous philosophy profes—
sor. described a summer research trip to Paris. where
young Jeremy was pestering him about the meaning of
death.

“So he took me to Napoleon‘s tomb." he said. "That
may explain everything."

Plus. he notes. “I grew up thinking all adults went to
France to do research."

After getting a master‘s degree at Harvard. he returned
to his alma mater — University of Califomia. Berke-
ley ~ to get his Ph.D.. specializing in the French
Revolution and the press.

But when he came to UK in 1978. there was an extra
spot for a class. and he asked if it would be OK to
teach something about the Holocaust. which at the
time was a fairly novel idea.

"Back then. there were some memoirs and some basic
histories. but none of the vast tomes of scholarship
there is now." Popkin said. “Few students were inter-
ested.“

A few years later. a big TV series on the Holocaust
came out. and the tomes began to be written. "Now."
Popkin says. "it has become my most popular under-
graduate class."

By 1990. Popkin had written three books and numer-
ous articles about the press and the French Revolution.
but he kept thinking about the one aspect of the French
Revolution that no one really talked about — the issue
of abolition in a French colony where the enslaved
sent countless profits back to the same mother country
whose revolution produced the 1789 Declaration on
the Rights of Man.

Haitian slaves began the Caribbean‘s only successful
slave rebellion in 1791. but very few historians had
examined the extremely complicated political and eco-
nomic relationships between the two upheavals.

"When I first realized this. there was almost nothing
to read. so you can make original contributions right
away." Popkin said. "I was interested in first-person
accounts; very little attention had been paid to them."

So he tracked down the accounts of people who had
lived through the Haitian Revolution. which was

roughly from 1791 to 1804. In 2007. the University
of Chicago Press published Facing Racial Revolution:
First-Person Narratives from the Haitian Revolution.

Three years later. Popkin wrote a landmark book on
the revolution. You Are All Free: The Haitian Revolu-
tion and the First Abolition ofSlavery. published by
Cambridge University.

Petrone. who nominated Popkin for the Bryan Chair.
said in her nomination letter that the book could not be
overestimated.

“It overturns conventional wisdom on the causes of
the abolition of slavery in France and Haiti — events
that would transform not only the Francophone world
but slavery worldwide." she wrote with colleague
Gretchen Starr-LeBeau. “At the same time. it rewrites
the history of the Haitian Revolution. an event that is
still under-studied and poorly understood. despite its
global significance This book is essential reading
for anyone interested in the histories of race. slavery.
and abolition; of the Atlantic world and transnational
histories; of colonialism: and of memory and identity."

The critics agreed with her: the book won the Ameri-
can Historical Association’s 2011 J. Russell Major
Prize for the best book in French history. the Society
of French Historical Studies’ 201 1 David Pinkney

prize for best book on French history. and was one of
six finalists for the international Cundill Book Prize
for 201 l.

Popkin does most of his research in France. at venues
such as the National Library and the National Ar—
chives. He has been to Haiti once. before the devastat—
ing 2010 earthquake. using a map from the 1700s to
explore Cap Haitien. then known as Cap Francais.

"That was a lot of fun to explore sites where events I
had written about had taken place.” he said.

Popkin‘s research has been aided by numerous prizes
and fellowships. including the National Humanities
Center Fellowship (2000-01). the University of Ken-
tucky Research Fellowship (2003-04). the School

of Historical Sciences. Institute for Advanced Study
(Princeton) (2006) and National Humanities Center
Fellowship (2012-13).

The Bryan Chair comes with a research stipend that
will allow him to go to Paris this summer for research
on his next project. a seminal history of the French
Revolution incorporating all the new scholarship that
Popkin and others have done since historian Simon
Schama published Citizens: A Chronicle of the French
Revolution in 1990.

He hopes it will be a more mainstream book than hiso—
thers. "one that people will actually pay money for."

 

 hejoked. “More popular writers, like Doris Keams
Goodwin, are the writers who get people interested in
history. If we (academics) only wrote for each other,
than we'd really have to worry about the future of the
discipline.”

In the meantime, he‘s also working on a memoir about
his family, including his father. and his grandmother
Zelda Popkin, a novelist in the 1960s.

After 30 years in higher education. Popkin has seen
liberal arts degrees get shunted aside in favor of more
“marketable“ majors like engineering and marketing.
But he thinks there‘s still a future for scholars and stu—
dents who want to use the past to explain our compli-
cated present.

“Some recent world events have helped us understand
how revolutionaries and revolutions start with won—
derful ideals but end up in places they didn’t expect,”
Popkin said. “There‘s more interest today in history
than there ever has been. I tend to think it has more
of a future than people think."

Linda Blackford: (859) 2314359. Twitter: @lbblackford.

 

Planning for the future: the Presidents
Council

By Hanna B. Smith

The Presidents Council is perhaps the least known of
Lexington‘s Jewish institutions even though it has ex-
isted for many years. As the name implies. the council
consists of the presidents of the local Jewish institu—
tions. the rabbis of Temple Adath Israel and Ohavay
Zion Synagogue. and the executive director and assis-
tant executive director of the Jewish Federation of the
Bluegrass. The Central Kentucky Jewish Federation.
now Jewish Federation of the Bluegrass, initiated the
Presidents Council.

According to Judy Wortman. Executive Director of
the Jewish Federation of the Bluegrass. in past years
the Presidents Council met only twice a year. About
two years ago the council started to meet every six
weeks and now meets monthly. The newly revived
Presidents Council focuses on joint planning to meet
the current and future needs of the Lexington Jewish
community.

The council members work well together, in a spirit of
optimism for the future. mutual trust and cooperation.
according to Judy Wortman. Three more members
have been added to the council. These are Attorney
Michael Ades, ad hoc member liaison to the Jewish-
Heritage Fund for Excellence. Judy Engelberg. past
president of Temple Adath Israel. and Jane Chaput.
past president of Hadassah.

Judy Engelberg and Jane Chaput were asked to stay on
as members even though their terms as presidents of

their respective organizations had expired. “Working
for the unity of the Lexington Jewish community is
important to me. Unity will benefit everyone.” com-
ments Judy Engelberg.

“This committee is forward-looking and positive about
the future of our Jewish Community. It gives me a
great sense of satisfaction,” said Jane Chaput.

Current as well as future needs include setting pro—
gram priorities, preparing a new generation of com—
munity leaders, evaluating our physical facilities, and
developing the necessary financial resources. Council
members have met with the president. director, and
Grants Commitee of the Jewish Heritage Fund for
Excellence. This fund is based in Louisville and has
agreed to include the Lexington Jewish community in
its grants.

The first grant approved by the Jewish Heritage Fund
for Excellence was for Camp Shalom bus transporta-
tion, funding for a camp nurse, and for a Jewish pro-
gram specialist for the 2014 camp season. For now.
the JHFE prefers to provide grants through the Presi-
dents Council where the money will benefit the whole
community, rather than awarding grants to individual
organizations.

In November 2014 the Presidents Council held a
retreat for the purpose of long-term planning. In ad-
dition to council members. appointees from the Jew—
ish community under the age of 40 years. including
teenagers. were invited to present their views. Debra
Stein, Senior Director of Learning and Development
for the Jewish Federations of North America, was the
facilitator at the retreat.

The Presidents Council’s next grant request will be
made in June 2015 to finance a feasibility study re—
garding a potential Jewish campus in Lexington. This
campus would house room for the congregations. a
facility for Camp Shalom. space for lectures and train-
ing as well as for youth group meetings, and offices
for the Federation. Owning a camp facility will make
it possible to extend Camp Shalom for more than the
current two weeks per year. Another plan is to develop
a merged youth group that also includes non—affiliated
teens. Ideally. all Jewish children growing up in Lex~
ington and surrounding area should have the opportu-
nity to meet and to get to know each other.

Federation Executive Director Judy Wortman is nego-
tiating with Dr. Jacob Ukeles of Ukeles Associates for
conducting a feasibility study. Ukeles Associates has
conducted population studies in major communities,
including the Jewish population of Philadelphia and of
New York.

Stay tuned! ”Shalom” will present more information
about the Presidents Council‘s work as it becomes
5 available.

 

 Ask a Rabbi—
Rabbi Avrohom
Litvin

Will the Real You
Please Rise

Back when I was a
child, there was a game
show called To Tell the
Truth. Three panelists
would try to figure out
who was associated
with a particular story
and then at the end of
the game, the real person was asked to rise. I thought
of that game show in light of the second Book of the
Bible, (in Hebrew Shemos which literally meaning
“names” but is usually referred to as Exodus) which
we have just begun to read in Synagogues and Tem—
ples around the world.

It begins with the words: “And these are the names of
the Jews who came into Egypt, Reuben, Shimon” etc.
Why does it make such a big deal about the names?
Wouldn’t it be more accurate to have written: “These
are the people who came into Egypt, and not have to
list individual names? After all, was it the names that
came into Egypt or was it the people?

Do we really even need names? Would it be so bad if
we called everyone honey or sweetie? Or maybe we
could call them Sir or Madam? Or Doctor or Profes-
sor? When asked who you are — do you reply with
your name, or with your title, or are we all reduced to
our social security numbers? In the comic strip Ziggy,
he says he doesn’t even rate a number but thinks of
himself as next. Who is the real you?

The answers to all of these questions may be based

on the fact that Egypt was the first exile of the people
of Israel. The Jews were about to be enslaved and
persecuted for 210 years. How will they survive? The
answer is Shemos which means their names!

What is exile? When is a person in exile? Is only be—
ing in jail exile? Is exile when you are forced out of
your country and not allowed to return? Or can exile
even happen on vacation on a luxury cruise? Or to a
person in their den watching TV? Can that person be
in exile?

Anytime you feel trapped with an environment or cir—
cumstance that is hostile or limiting you — that is exile!
Exile means you have no control over a situation. A
deal end job, enslaved by a mortgage and a car pay-

ment, stuck in an unhealthy relationship — these are all
various forms of exile.

Yet we do have control of one thing in exile. We have
control of how much of ourselves we sink into those
circumstances. There is an external you represented
by just your name and then the internal real you which
is more refined, more spiritual, and can never be held
down or enslaved.

Torah teaches we must only allow our external selves,
symbolized by our names, to be enslaved in the day
to day difficulties of life. Yet our true inner selves
should always remain holy and pure and free.

While Pharaoh tried to drown the Jewish babies in the
waters of Egypt, Moses was placed in a basket to rise
above those waters. Instead of the Egyptian waters
(culture) engulfing him, he floated in the basket and
rose safely above the water below him.

Each of us has the capacity to be like Moses and
remain internally free and committed as Jews even if
our external selves must deal with all of the trials and
tribulations of the culture and society around us.

G-d promises that very soon he will return all Jews

to Israel in peace with the coming of the Moshiach.
Until that day, we allow our external selves to fight
the good fight in this troubled world, yet our inner
selves, our souls, we keep free and pure, and above
the fray. This is what the Jews did by bringing only
their “names” into Egypt and it is the key to making it
through the difficulties we face in life as well.

 

 

 

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Mimi Kaufman

Sibling Rivalry

Sibling conflict is one of
the dynamics parents wish
we could do without. Why
can't theyjust get along?
l used to hear my mother
say all the time. Know
that conflict between and
_. among siblings helps chil-
dren to learn positive
social skills and conflict negotiation. Moderate
amounts of conflict can play a beneficial role in fu—
ture relationships when it is balanced by warmth and
support. To quote Pamela Dugdale. "Siblings are the
people we practice on. the people who teach us about
faimess and cooperation and kindness and caring.
quite often the hard way." It is ourjob as parents to
help them learn ways to deal more effectively with
their rivalry. ultimately teaching them skills for a life-
time. Sibling rivalry is a very natural part of family
life. it does not mean that your children do not like
one another. Your children are competing for their
parents. attention and approval. Knowing that makes
it a little easier to arm yourselves with some strategies
to help enhance sibling relationships and prevent some
of the discord. Here are a few:
1. Treat each child as an individual and avoid mak-
ing comparisons. Don‘t label your children. Ie. "This
is Johnny. he is our athlete" Look for their individual
strengths and interests and needs. Acknowledge their

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efforts and successes.

2. After a conflict. show children empathy but do not
take sides.

3. Be proactive about giving quality time alone regu—
larly if you can. Being present. available and inter-
ested is paramount.

4. Let your children know that love is not something
that comes with limits by your actions and words. We
don‘t always like each other but we still love each
other even when angry.

5. Children. like adults. need their own possessions.
space and time alone. Don‘t make them share ev-
erything and do everything together. Ie Don’t make
Johnny take his little brother to all of his play dates.
Recognize their need to be apart sometimes.

6. lfchildren are fighting in order to get attention.
take a time—out for yourself. With you out of the pic-
ture. their incentive to fight is gone.

7. Spend time having fun as a family together. Enjoy-
ing each other‘s company reduces future conflict.

8. Intervene when necessary. especially with little
ones. Stop aggressive behaviors. Enforce the “no
hitting" rule. Offer them solutions that can help teach
conflict resolution. Ie. Trading toys. taking turns. and
a compromising solution that is acceptable to both
children.

These are skills our children need to learn. and it is
ourjob to teach them. The various ways that you role
model to handle differences and conflicts are teaching
your children how to handle these situations as they

Camp Fair 2015

 

 Tickets Go On Sale for “Jews in Magic”
Show April 18

TAI Fundraiser Fun and Educational

Jews have distinguished
themselves as composers.
writers. philosophers and
scientists for centuries. It
may surprise you to learn.
however. that Jews have
also been forerunners in
the field of magic. Their
contributions to the art
have been legendary.

Master magician, Manny
Sperling. who has enter-
tained audiences across the
country is coming to
Lexington to share his tales of intrigue about magi—
cians and illusionists like Houdini and Eddie Fields.
both of them Jewish. Sperling has researched the
backgrounds and performances of Jewish magicians.
pulling tricks out of the hat of magicians of bygone
year. which has resulted in a lavish production. called
“Jews in Magic".
The show will be on the evening of Saturday. April
18. 2015 at the Pavilion A auditorium at UK Health-
Care Chandler Hospital. The curtain will rise at 8:00
pm. There will be refreshments afterward. Parking is
convenient and free.

Prior to the show. generous patrons of the Temple will
have the pleasure of dining at the home of Dr. Michael
and Ellen Karpf. Dr. Karpf is the Executive Vice
President of Health affairs at the hospital. and Ellen

is a local arts advocate and has served on the board of
the Lexington Philharmonic.

Patron tickets are $500 a couple and include priority
seating and recognition at the performance. as well as
the lovely dinner before the show. A limited number
of patron tickets are still available. Reserved seating
is $50 per person and general admission is $20. Tick-
ets must be purchased in advance of the evening of the
show.

For information about becoming a “Jews in Magic"
patron. please contact Ellen Karpf at ellenkarpf@
icloud.com. For tickets. call the temple office at 269—
2979 or contact Ruth Baker at ruth@sadjava.com.

Ticket distribution will begin on March 1.

Jewish Federations Hail Release of Alan
Gross from Cuban Prison

December 17. 2014

New York - Human rights activists across the United
States are uplifted by the news that Alan Gross. a
Jewish—American contractor. was freed from a